RELATIONSHIPS ARE COMPLICATED

my goodness Jesus its really one learn through experience and thats is that we should have but not accept anything in return at any cost from it makes one shattered the best way to tackle is our LORDS saying put and give in it rather picking and having some expectation from it .the true relationship is in life is only one really only one and that is one with our LORD.THATS also not easy reason love caring concern all comes from them in reverse me dot follow there rules till now .presently playing with fire in relationship of friendship heartily feeling is pure mind is stupid

THE DIFFRENCE IN ATTITUDE AND APPROACH OF THE RACING GAME

Race goers tend to back only favorites. . Backing a favourite is a comforting factor for a punter. This is why a punter tends to go with favourites even when logic suggests that he may be making a wrong decision. Even the professionals are not free from this trait of feeling that a favourite has a better chance of winning. I have quite often seen trainers being very confident about their horse much before race time but when that horse is less supported in the ring, they develop cold feet. Rarely can they tip a horse with conviction if it is running at long odds.
The betting pattern of the majority is more often than not dominated by lack of insight and rational calculation. But a punter opts for an easy way out because this will reduce his dissonance and make him feel better. The anxiety that comes with the possibility of having made a bad decision can lead to rationalization even if the said horse that he has backed has lost. Cognitive Dissonance is defined as an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding conflicting ideas simultaneously. To reduce this dissonance, a punter tends to justify his decision and if it does not work the way he expects, he resorts to blaming and denying. Quite often in horse racing, result defies expectation and in a state of dissonance, people rarely feel that they have made a mistake and they tend to justify their bias by irrational and destructive behavior. To put it cynically, a punter keeps making mistakes again and again but blames his mistake on someone else!
. Only a minority of race goers shun favourites.
These days, we have experts advising punters on why they should avoid favorites and how to lay the horse (In other words, instead of backing the favourite, take the bet on the favourite themselves). These experts extol punters not to be misled by hype, which is based on rumor and have opened consultancy services to guide them how to deviate from the trap that the majority fall into.
The mindset of a punter is always influenced by the fact of a horse being a favourite no matter how many times he is proved wrong. This perception can never change whatever theories that may be advocated against backing favorites. A big punter always swears by the favourite even if time and again he has lost a fortune. For the record, about 30 per cent of horses win as favorites world wide and anything higher than this is considered as a big deviation from the norm. Success visits favourites often but never sits with them permanently!

controlling mind heart and feeling

Really some time feel when n how maturity of life comes and achieved age wise what me mean life is turning in diff rent arena where its more responsibility towards family kids social circle and off course huge time for business and life rest problems ,problems is something diff rent one get solved another comes ,responsibility,everyday in spite getting and being into meditation where we learn so much from our LORD,s teaching regarding everything how to be a perfect man in all aspect of life in spite of hearing it so much very little me put it in our living and daily routine willing to follow from heart n mind but feeling getting failed in doing and bringing it in action ,knowing life is uncertain how long time is there left to do all still get lazy and huge work is on pending neither working towards will nor targeting something to achieve its a stage fully haphazard.IT not something impossible situation situation can be change alter but mind set is very very difficult to control having so much experience in life so much mistake knowing what we doing is not right and what me also thinking is not appreciable just heart is ruling mind for some time feeling me just making fool to myself directionless and aimless .what me feel being so much involve in my complicated problem me rather than solving my one exciting problem me adding another problem .What me should do now and how to come out from this situation me have to have some very tough decision and sacrifice its easy to climb a tree but difficult to get down so me have to stop myself what me doing its not good enough is enough so its now today or never if me say slowly it wot happen so me have to call it a day its tough but not impossible no intentions hurting to anyone but me feel me not in position in my life for whats happening around and no point playing with fire at the end its only hand will get burn.So no point looking for an ointment latter and crying for healing its better to put water on fire i mean controlling mind heart and my feeling .If me going to try GOD is always there to help me.SO it better to be late than never.

SUPERSTITIOUS ATTITUDE OF A GAMBLER

Superstitions are inseparable part of horse racing. race goer never parts with money on race days. If he has to make any payment, he would rather do it on a non-race day because he believes that giving out money on race day will bring bad luck and he may end up parting with all his money at the end of the day! If a cat crosses the path of a gambler, he would rather wait till some other person has crossed over so that the bad luck of the cat crossing does not affect him! A horse shoe, especially the steel shoe, worn by an all black horse is considered a lucky charm and you can see the horse shoe being nailed in front of lot of houses. This belief is not exclusive to race goers. In India, horse has been a sign of power and prosperity and in the Hindu mythologies, horse is a recurring motif.Many gamblers believe that sharing information may bring them bad luck and thus they develop negative traits of deceitfulness that makes them lie about their intentions. Some of the biggest race horse owners in the country, however, philanthropic they may be outside the race course, are not so generous when it comes to sharing information on a possible winner.Gamblers have greater trust in factors other than merit and they believe that playing a horse of a particular number can bring them luck which the psychologists put as cognitive error. If a gambler has been successful having started the day eating food at a particular restaurant, he may repeat the same practice till his luck runs out! Indians are big believers in superstitions but Chinese being bigger gamblers, have a huge list of dos and don`ts before they venture out to gamble. They will never enter the gambling venue from the main entrance. And during gambling as well, they are governed by certain self imposed guidelines. The funniest among this is wearing red underwear while gambling!nother superstition is to avoid meeting a particular person whom they think brings bad luck or shaking hands lest their good luck is passed on. Some others eat before a bet and after a bet as well. Some believe only in numerology and some others in astrology, mathematical factors.If a race goer has won on a consistent basis during a day, he would look at what transpired during the day and try to duplicate the same process the next day. I have often see a punter change places each race in order to improve his ``vaastu``. One of the leading trainers in Bangalore lost six bets in England in succession but was lucky with the seventh one. To the surprise of his colleague who was with him, he took out the ticket from his stockings! The trainer said that he had lost when he had put the ticket in his pockets and hence searched for a new place to keep the ticket for change of luck! Gambling and superstition are inseparable.